What if we all looked the way we wanted? Our ideal weight became reality, our worries about money washed away. Your love life is exactly the way you pictured it. Do you think we’d all be happier? Or would we just find new things to hate?
this post just fucked me up
Holy-moly! Thanks for slowing this down. I never noticed the look on John’s face before. That may just be the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. So much peace, contentment, happiness and love.Look at the second gif: that’s a snuggle!
They love each other so much. It’s just so sweet and wonderful and also heartbreaking as hell.
I like the first one because he pulls Sherlock to him
Still though, the most awkwardly-positioned ‘Let’s make sure our dicks don’t touch’ side-hug in history. And hello gif #2, I swear that’s a thumb on the nape of Sherlock’s neck above the collar.
—Oh, right. Remember to give him the dudely man-clap on the back. That’s no homo. Smooth, John. Real smooth.
This gifset makes me want to weep.
I wish I could see this from the opposite angle.
When you find a fresh new reaction image and you search desperately for any possible way you can use it
I’d like to present to you the following exchange from The Empty Hearse:
Sherlock: Well, we’ll have to get rid of that [moustache].
Sherlock: He looks ancient. I can’t be seen wandering around with an old man….
I’d like to take a second to comment on the fact Sherlock used a ‘we’ statement within the first 15 minutes of TEH. I mean that’s one of the most couple-y type mannerisms there is and Sherlock breaks it out right after seeing a picture of John for the first time in two years.
There’s a possibility he is referring to a joint effort between him and Mycroft, but given that Sherlock just berated his brother for not helping him out when he was being tortured, it’s unlikely he’s got a team mindset going with Mycroft.
I think he accidentally said “we” without thinking, and the “we” he meant was he and John. It’s a little surprising to hear, coming from someone who spent the last two years alone and generally preaches the downfalls of sentiment and caring for others. Even Mycroft does a double take after hearing Sherlock say it.
Sherlock: Well, we’ll have to get rid of that.
Of course Sherlock ignores the fact that Mycroft most certainly did catch on to this and moves on immediately with his train of thought. Seems about right for someone who doesn’t want to let on how much he really does care. Nevertheless, it did happen and Mycroft wasn’t the only one to pick up on it.
10 WAYS WE BODY SHAME WITHOUT REALIZING IT:
1. Saying Things Like, “She Would Be So Pretty If…”
Have you ever uttered anything along the lines of, “But she has such a gorgeous face” or “She would be more beautiful if she put on a few pounds”? You are limiting your idea of beauty to a cultural stereotype. Beauty is not conditional. If you can’t say anything nice, maybe it’s time to learn how.
2. Judging Other People’s Clothes
While it’s fine for you to choose clothes any way you want, nobody else is required to adhere to your style. The person wearing that outfit is, in fact, pulling it off, even if you think she’s too flat chested, big chested, short, tall, fat or thin. And fat people don’t have to confine themselves to dark colors and vertical stripes, no matter who prefers it. And spandex? It’s a right, not a privilege.
3. Making It an ‘Us vs. Them’ Thing
The phrase “Real Women Have Curves” is highly problematic. Developed as a response to the tremendous body shaming that fat women face, it still amounts to doing the same thing in the opposite direction. The road to high self-esteem is probably not paved with hypocrisy. Equally problematic is the phrase “boyish figure” as if a lack of curves makes us somehow less womanly. The idea that there is only so much beauty, only so much self-esteem to go around is a lie. Real women come in all shapes and sizes, no curves required.
4. Avoiding the Word “Fat”
Dancing around the word fat is an insinuation that it’s so horrible that it can’t even be said. The only thing worse than calling fat people “big boned” or “fluffy” is using euphemisms that suggest body size indicates the state of our health or whether we take care of ourselves. As part of a resolution to end body shaming, try nixing phrases like “she looks healthy,” or “she looks like she is taking care of herself,” and “she looks like she is starving” when what you actually mean is a woman is thin.
5. Making Up Body Parts
We could all lead very full lives if we never heard the words cankles, muffin top, apple shaped, pear shaped or apple butt ever again. We are not food.
6. Congratulating People for Losing Weight
You don’t know a person’s circumstances. Maybe she lost weight because of an illness. You also don’t know if she’ll gain the weight back (about 95 percent of people do), in which case earlier praise might feel like criticism. If someone points out that a person has lost weight, consider adding something like, “You’ve always been beautiful. I’m happy if you are happy.” But if a person doesn’t mention her weight loss, then you shouldn’t mention it either. Think of something else you can compliment.
7. Using Pretend Compliments
“You’re really brave to wear that.” By the way, wearing a sleeveless top or bikini does not take bravery. “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful.” These things are not mutually exclusive — a person can be fat and beautiful. “You can afford to eat that, you’re thin.” You don’t know if someone has an eating disorder or something else; there is no need to comment on someone’s body or food intake. “You’re not that fat” or “You’re not fat, you workout,” need to be struck from your vocabulary. Suggesting that looking fat is a bad thing is also insulting.
8. Thinking of Women as Baby-Making Machines
One of my readers mentioned that her gynecologist called her “good breeding stock.” Also awful: “baby making hips.” Worst of all is when people ask fat people when they are due. As has famously been said, unless you can see the baby crowning, do not assume that someone is pregnant.
9. Sticking Your Nose in Other People’s Exercise Routines
A subtle form of body shaming occurs when people make assumptions or suggestions about someone’s exercise habits based on their size. Don’t ask a fat person, “Have you tried walking?” Don’t tell a thin person, “You must spend all day in the gym.” I have had people at the gym congratulate me for starting a workout program when, in fact, I started working out at age 12 and never stopped. I had a thin friend who started a weight-lifting program and someone said to her, “Be careful, you don’t want to bulk up.” How about not completely over-stepping your boundaries and being rude and inappropriate?
10. Playing Dietitian
If you have no idea how much a person eats or exercises, you shouldn’t tell her to eat less and move more or suggest she put more meat on her bones. (Even if you do know what she eats, don’t do it). How do you know she’s looking for nutritional advice from you or the newest weight-loss tip you saw on Dr. Oz?
Written by: Ragen Chastain
We’ve been going nuts trying to find what has caused me to gain so much weight…I mean, beyond the fact that they had to take out my thyroid thanks to having a fist sized non-cancerous tumor in there. I also have celiacs (which if mild enough can cause the opposite of weight loss). I think too often people go “weight gain = eating too much” but I’ve known people who got sick on vegan diets because they couldn’t process the foods, and others who found it made them feel wonderful. I’ve known people who were “fat” who ate little and ran constantly.
Each person is different.